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The 10 Songs That Helped Me Survive School

I feel very old realising that this time 10 years ago commenced the absolute worst 6 years of my life; secondary school. On the bright side, I survived, and although school feels like it’s gonna last forever – it doesn’t. Now it feels like it was someone else’s lifetime! I did my time, and these songs made it bearable. Here are the 10 songs that helped me survive school:

My Chemical Romance – I’m Not Okay

In one sentence, the title of this song was exactly what teenage me felt like, and MCR got it. There’s a part in the video where someone throws their lunch as Frank, and that was literally me in school, a human trash can (amoung other not so pleasant things). I used to wear black skeleton fingerless gloves (because this one time Frank Iero worn them so I went out and bought them), red clip in hair extensions, and too much eyeliner in the day, 100% looked like Revenge Era MCR. This song ironically makes me feel really happy though.

Gerard Way tweeted me when I was 16 and I cried.

Paramore – Misery Business

Paramore were one of my favourite bands when I was a teenager, and Misery Business (and the whole Riot album in general) is an emo icon. I actually grew out of them a little bit after Brand New Eyes came out – which I enjoyed but not as much as Riot. Although the don’t play it live anymore, this was an emo staple and also represented how I felt in school at the time.

Cherri Bomb – Let it Go

This song is where my blog name, “thisdreamsalive” came from, which was originally my username on Tumblr when I was 16 and it’s stuck around every since. I found Cherri Bomb just before their first EP, “Stark” dropped, and fell in love. If I didn’t love them so much, I’d hate them because they were girls my age living my dream! When I ended my first band because… school and the internet pre Cyberbullying laws, Julia told me on Tumblr to start it up again because “fuck the haters”, two years later I got to hang out with The Edge in a studio with a band I was in, and record a demo so thank you Cherri Bomb & Karma. She’s on my Girls Who Rock post, and actually liked my tweet sharing that post on International Women’s Day (Lindsey/Lyn-Z Way is also on that list and made my life by reading the blog and tweeting me)

When Julia left the remaining members re-branded themselves as “Hey Violet”, and I saw them when they opened for 5 Seconds of Summer and cried.

Fall Out Boy – I Don’t Care

I tried to give off the impression that I didn’t care what people thought of me in school, but genuinely not caring takes a lot of practice. You gotta fake it till you make it, and now I probably care too little.

I was lucky enough to meet Fall Out Boy and see them live when I was 17. I literally forgot how to speak, because they’ve been in my life since I was 10/11 so actually seeing them in real life just felt out of this world. Pete Wentz winked at me because I brought a copy of his book to sign, and it was the most emo moment of my life. They are also still by far the best band I’ve seen live.

Fearless Vampire Killers – The Vigilante: Death or Disgrace

FVK were a band I felt like a proud mom of, because way back when I spent my pocket money buying Kerrang! every week, they were band of the week when one of their early singles, Palace in Flames, came out, they looked like a band I’d love and they were. I immediately became obsessed – like MCR I ended up missing seeing them – even had tickets to see them at Reading festival but they broke up and pulled out and I ended up not going to Reading in the end, so it wasn’t meant to be. I love creative bands who make weird concept albums, and take music much further than three good singles, generic music videos, and an album of filler. I loved the stories, the costumes, everything! Their early stuff is still weirdly comforting for me.

Panic! At the Disco – I Write Sins Not Tragedies

I had to make sure this post went full Emo Trinity, and I adored Panic! and this emo anthem. Like MCR, and FVK, I loved how theatrical they used to be – although Brendon is still doing pretty good I just don’t listen to them much anymore. I played Panic, MCR, and the Used songs on guitar in my music practical exam for my Junior Cert when I was 15 and covered in eyeliner, for a lady literally dressed like Delores Umbridge – she very harshly gave me a C.

All Time Low – Therapy

I was quite a troubled teenager, and this song made me feel understood. I got to see ATL when I was 16 and they were great, I had a recording of this song live on my phone – which was awful quality – that I always revisited, and was very sad to lose the footage.

Pierce The Veil – Hold on Till May

I had a brief Pierce the Veil phase when I was 16, and now whenever I hear them I feel 16 again and that’s not a nice feeling. I was lucky enough to see them live, and they were fantastic though, I even cried. The album this is from actually came out on my birthday, July 17th, so that was pretty cool.

Green Day – Wake me Up When September Ends

The “Wake Me Up When September Ends” jokes that resurface every year, are actually pretty insensitive, because Billy Joe wrote this about his dad passing away, but I dreaded September back in the day. Sadly, I’ve been avoiding Green Day for the past few years over them being someone’s,Β who ruined my life, favourite band – even though I liked them years before meeting him, but I’ll return to them eventually.

My Chemical Romance – Famous Last Words

I had to save what is my favourite song in the world for last. This was the song, the band, and the album that got me through my darkest days. I cracked a few jokes about petty teenage things here, but as someone who really was not okay as a teenager, MCR were what got me through it.

You can absolutely get a sense of just how angry, angsty, and emo I was back in the day. I still love My Chemical Romance, but as for the other bands on this list, I grew up and away from them but still listen nostalgically from time to time. I originally had only 5 songs on this list, and then decided to add a few “Honorable Mentions”, and then just bumped it up to 10, and even that’s not enough, so my little emo heart wants to point out that I adored The Used, Taking Back Sunday, and The Pretty Reckless, in the day too but there’s no room! A lot of these are about not being okay, but this music did at the time and still does makes me happy so I’ll always be grateful to these musicians. I’m okay, I promise.

For anyone still in school: you can get through this, I felt like I was never going to be happy and get out of that hell hole I went to, but I did. If being obsessed with bands is the only thing that makes you feel remotely happy then that’s okay because that’s how I survived (but please also seek help if you’re struggling). As my hero, Gerard Way once said: It’s okay to love something a little too much, as long as it’s real to you.” These songs helped me survive school, and for that, I’ll always love them.

Who was your go-to bands when you were in school?

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20 thoughts on “The 10 Songs That Helped Me Survive School

  1. This was a fantastic post to read so thank you for sharing it.

    My go-tos were very similar to yours especially towards the end of my time at secondary school (I finished in 2009) so the likes of Panic! at the Disco, The Used, Taking Back Sunday, Something Corporate, Hit the Lights, ATL and Mayday Parade. 😊

  2. Such a good post idea! Mine were similar – a lot of Panic! all the way through high school & every band connected to Panic!, listening to them now makes me nostalgic and glad I managed to make it through school πŸ˜…

  3. Ah I used to love a lot of these bands back in school as well- especially Paramore, Pierce the Veil and Fall Out Boy! I was very into The Pretty Reckless and Linkin Park too. I feel very nostalgic remembering some of the songs on your list πŸ™‚

  4. Omg I want all these songs on a playlist to be nostalgic of my teenage years, I listened to very similar things at the time too! My tastes have changed a bit but I still find I know all the words when I here any of these songs again!

  5. Thanks for the nostalgia trip. 😊 It looks like we were into a lot of the same bands – my favourites included MCR, Paramore, Fall Out Boy and Linkin Park. I also had an obsession for Greenday and Blink 182 for a while too. Ironically I used to get bullied by the alternative kids for liking “their” music and how it wasn’t for “me”. Thankfully I know better now!

      1. Exactly! They got quite funny with me on occassion, asking me to name songs of whatever band that weren’t realise as singles. *eye roll*

  6. Such a good post! I was in about 17/18 when these bands were popular, but still in high school, so they still did help me get through it, just like you. MCR was my absolute favorite- I saw them twice in concert and they were AMAZING. Though Gerard never tweeted me! You’ve been blessed!!!! And that’s so cool about your story about Cherri Bomb! Sometimes you need those words from someone you admire to help you keep fighting!

    I personally loved MCR, Fall Out Boy, The Used, From First to Last, and Panic! at the Disco. Such memories. It really was the soundtrack to my life then!

    Emily | https://www.thatweirdgirllife.com

    1. I’m so jealous that you saw MCR! I missed them twice (and then they broke up – but it looks like they’re back now!)

  7. I listened to a couple on your list but I was actually a little more cheesy! I loved bands like STEPS, A1, Boyzone and Westlife! Though, that was up until 16 and then I realised I loved classic bands like Queen, T-Rex, AD/DC and The Monkees! I might have to make this post too!! Thank you!

    Daisy xoxo | TheDeeWhoLived

  8. I am an 80 music guy but miss My Chemical Romance and like Green Day. I am more a Billy Joel, Chicago and Prince person but love listening to music when i get stressed out. Glad I am not the only one who loves music therapy.

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